Why is it a double standard in marriage?

I wrote before about how my husband always puts the guilt trip on me for wanting to go out - anywhere. Now hes just gone out to a motorcross race and drinking after arguing with me last night about me wanting to go to a shoe %26amp; bag party at a friends house. I ended up staying home. He told me he was going to his dads this arvo and he ended up at the races. I wouldnt mind at all if i got the same freedom as i give him. How selfish

Why is it a double standard in marriage?
Who says you can't do what you want? He does.


Just do it. IF he gets out of sorts, leave again.


IF he stays home, yoiu still go to the things you go to.





They are not bad or bad for you or him.


He is childish. Make him grow up.
Reply:It seems to me that the guilt trips are something that you agree with down deep inside yourself. If in the back of your mind you agree with what he says, then you'll feel guilty, and sooner or later you will rebel and fight or just fall apart. I suggest that you sit back and rethink about what it is you want in your life and marriage. Second, you must put those thoughts into action. It may not be easy at first, but it will become easier the longer you do it.





Next, freedom is not something that your husband has the power to grant, or even take away for that matter. It is a right each of us has and what we do with it is up to us. If you feel that your freedom is being threaten or taken away, then it is up to you, and you alone to protect it! This is not to say that you need to meet him at the door with a baseball bat or something like that, but if you don't take a stand with him, and use your freedoms then your are giving them away.





It's past time for you to stand up for yourself. If you will not do it, then who will?
Reply:Even if you told him you didn't want to go..he'd still go...So go...have some fun! If he doesn't want to have fun with go have some fun with your friends...You'll feel better afterwards!!
Reply:My husband always tells me i'm the one with the double standards, but like, if he REALLY doesn't want to do something I want to.. we don't do it. I'd rather save the fight. Well, this weekend we're going to do something for him that I REALLY don't want to do, just so he can have fun. SIGH.
Reply:He treats you that way because you let him. Go and have a good time. I was married to someone like that . Notice i said WAS.
Reply:i dont get it ..you ask your husband to go out....my wife only asked me if i would go with .i always say no and she goes thats it...when i wanto go somewere i ask her if she has planes first thats part of being polite ...dump the zero go for a hero i think you married a red neck
Reply:Dude, you are...weak.


He is going out cheating on you. Maybe not with another woman, but with everyone else! (and probably with another woman)


It is selfish and you need to get a back bone.


You are doing exactly what he wants. Fighting with him and still staying home. He gets to act mad, and go out and cheat.


You stay home. Good job.


Sorry to be harsh, but you do this to yourself. If you have the money, hire a private detective.... 100 bucks says I'm right.
Reply:Ok tell him that, then start treating him like your hubby and not your Daddy....





Go out and have some fun!
Reply:You are a doormat. You will be treated as such until you take charge of your life. It is your life isn't it? Did he buy you or marry you? I suggest therepy, it will do wonders to help you open up the doors you have closed.
Reply:It's not a double standard, you just need to put your foot down.
Reply:short and sweet don't ask him just write it down on a calendar that you can both see about a week prior to going out with ya mates then when he hassles you as to where you are just tell him it's been on the calendar for a week etc. of course the other thing is to give him an ultimatum and if he takes it then your better off



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